Tipping at a wedding or in general is an entirely subjective topic, but one that needs to be mentioned. Did you know there is wedding etiquette when it comes to tipping your vendors? Wedding magazines do their best, but the magazines are very generic and also nationwide. Chicago is the third most expensive city to get married in. Which means the national average is going to be a little low for Chicago and surrounding suburbs. Having a wedding planner on board can eliminate a lot of confusion when it comes to this very grey area in the planning process. Please note, these are my opinions. You might disagree and that is totally okay!
If you do not have a planner, then hopefully this tipping guide will be a great resource for you. The first step is to actually budget for providing tips/gratuities. Literally add a column in your budget for gratuities! Then, if for whatever reason you choose to reduce that amount or forgo the tip all together you have a little savings account. If the vendors exceeded your expectations, you are not strapped for cash the night of the wedding. You have already accounted for the tip in your overall spending.
Think of this gesture as a “THANK YOU FOR MAKING MY DAY AWESOME!” Yes, you are paying them to do a service, however, it is so much more than that. Just like you tip at a nail salon, you are thanking them for taking the time to do an excellent job. You will spend on average 12+ hours with these vendors. Often, they are giving up their weekends, holidays and nights to meet with you, plan an epic wedding and perform a service (sometimes after the wedding is over) that you will cherish for years to come.
While tipping is never expected, it is, however, always appreciated. Often, a small gesture is all that you need such as a thank you card or a review on a vendor’s website. For a quick reference, see the infographic below.
To expand upon this infographic, I was recently apart of a #weducation series that helps break the taboo on tipping! Hear from an array of vendors who give their opinions on tipping.
If you have any additional questions or want to chat privately about this, feel free to send me an email and we can discuss your specific needs. Click here to contact me directly. Want more information on wedding planners? Click here. Finally, do not forget to focus on self-care through this entire planning process. A sick bride makes an unhappy bride.
Thanks for reading and Happy Planning!