A Groom’s Perspective: Planning Your Wedding

 Photo: Being Joy Photography
Photo: Being Joy Photography

Often, the bride is the focus of the wedding. Wether it is the planning or the wedding day, all of the questions seem to go to the bride. What is the date? What are the colors? How many guests? Where is the venue? How did he propose? The list goes on and on. For the groom, he often gets overlooked and told to “just show up.” What terrible advice is that?!? “Just show up” tells him that his opinions and thoughts don’t really matter. “Just show up” says that he has no say in his most special day. In my mind, this is a terrible miscarriage of justice. The groom in my world is just as important if not more important in some cases. Without him asking a very important question, the bride might not betting married. 

 Photo: Being Joy Photography Hair: Flora Hair and Makeup Team Flowers: Wyld Blooms
Photo: Being Joy Photography Hair: Flora Hair and Makeup Team Flowers: Wyld Blooms

Perhaps the most important Groom I have ever had to deal with was my groom, Adrian! Being married to a wedding planner is not always easy. I work most weekends and evenings are spent meeting with clients. Having listened to me for years, Adrian has learned that floorpans can make or break a wedding and can accurately describe the difference between poly and lamour linens. He never ceases to amaze me! He even offers to help write blog posts! I certainly got very lucky! Adrian has agreed to give his perspective on the wedding planning process. Below are his responses. 

 This is Adrian. He is pretty great. 
This is Adrian. He is pretty great. 

What is it like being a groom trying to plan a wedding and what advice would you give to other grooms?

Lucky for me, I married a wedding planner, but I was her own worst nightmare! I was a groom Zila, OK maybe not a total Groom Zila But a very picky Groom.  We had 12 months to get everything set and planned for the killer bash that we had wanted in our heads. Like I said, I married a wedding planner so the timeline of events and the coordination of people and companies came quite easy for us.  We both wanted something spectacular. Our wedding was a blank slate and we had to start to create our vision. 

I didn’t even know weddings had themes.  We both agreed on the same colors right away which was good! Boom done! From there we had the food that had to be decided on and I know for the brides that this is important, but this is just as important for the guys. Food is very important for guys so don’t blow it off, go do the food tasting! Also, if you are at all like me you’ll want a late night snack. Just an idea but we did a bacon bar and fresh donuts made on site. They were a huge hit. 

The bar was another important factor for our wedding. You have to make a statement and make your guests feel comfortable. We had a giant ice sculpture alcohol fountain, i’m guessing this was the statement piece. I was also very specific in not having beer bottles given to people but wanted the beer to be poured into glasses. It was about the look and the experience. 

My suggestion get involved, this is your wedding too. One of the biggest time sucks and most difficult parts were the invitations and day of printing. It took us an entire weekend to get all of the invitations stuffed in the envelopes and mailed out.  Don’t think this is a quick process, as this was probably the hardest thing about the whole wedding.

I was given one task to handle on my own. I was in charge of the transportation. Ashley did not care or want to be involved in that process, so she let me handle the entire thing. I had to organize the transportation for the entire wedding party from the hotel to the church and then on to the venue. It’s not as simple as just renting a bus, you have to plan that timeline pretty much to the minute because everything relies on this bus and getting you to the church and to the venue at specific times. We also stopped at a few locations for photos in between. It is quite the logistical chess match. On the topic of transportation, food deliveries is just as important. You are going to be busy all day so you’ll want to get some sort of food delivered to the bus. Depending on your timeline, stopping for lunch might not be an option, so you can plan on having sandwiches for the bus because you and your bridal party will be starving. 

Here is my advice for the actual wedding day: While on the topic of food, consider having some bagels with juice and coffee delivered in the morning while you are getting ready. This is a very long day and you will not have time to stop anywhere. Having things come to you is always a better idea. It makes the day go much smoother. 

Best piece of advice that I can give you is while your guests are eating their salad you and your bride eat the main course. That way when everybody is eating you can go table to table and say hi and thank them for coming. It is very important to not skip a meal on the wedding day. Before I got married, people would say you won’t remember much about the day. I did not think this was possible. It is the best day of your life. How can you not remember it? I thought they were lying, but no, it is so true! The day passes by in a flash and this is why a really good photographer and videographer are such an important investment. You will be shocked at how much you forget. You begin to slowly piece the day back together when your photos and video come back. Getting your footage can take a few months! Time seems to erase memories sooner than you think. I cannot harp enough and how important both of those things are.


Adrian will be making other guest blog posts in the months to come. He has more experience than most guys in the wedding planning world, mainly because he has to listen to me talk about weddings all.day.long! I want to make sure that guys know that they are not alone and that their opinions matter too! So often, I see them get pushed to the back and told to smile and make sure they show up on time. The guy is just as important as the girl. I want to make sure their voice and opinion (as crazy as it might be) gets heard. 

 Photo: Mary Rose Photography Venue: The Haight
Photo: Mary Rose Photography Venue: The Haight

Need Unique Groomsmen Gifts? Look No Further Than Groovy Guy Gifts!

Are you struggling to find some really special and unique Groomsmen gifts? Are you looking for something beyond the typical shot glass or flask? If so, keep reading!

I was recently approached by Joe at Groovy Guy Gifts to test some products that my couples could use for bridal party gifts. While I love getting free swag, I was cautious. How are they any different? Are they more expensive? Is this a scam? How can I trust the quality. Joe was super easy to work with and I was able to select anything I wanted off of their website to review. In order to give my very best analysis of their products, I got my husband, Adrian, involved. Who else better to test guy products than…a guy!

Here are our thoughts:

Website: Very easy to navigate, great selection of products. They even have Father’s Day gift ideas! Their products range in price from $19.99 to $85ish. Personalization is key with this company as your can put a name, monogram or face on pretty much anything they sell. Groovy Guy Gifts offer unique gifts that I have not seen on sites that offer similar services such as 2 different styles of  Golf Cleat Caddies, a functional Man Bag  Stylish Satchels or for the manly man in your life,  Weapon of Warriors! There really is something for just about everyone on this site!

Shipping: They have the standard 8-12 business day shipping but also provide expedited shipping (5 business days) for those grooms who forget that they need to get their guys a small token of appreciation! The expedited shipping seems a little expensive, so just plan ahead and the standard shipping is much more reasonably priced.

Product: I selected the Bleacher Buddy! I liked that it was something unique. My husband is not a drinker, so he really has no use for the shot glasses or flasks that are commonly given out as groomsmen gifts. Though to be fair, he does put his fair share of chocolate milk in the flasks he has received thus far! This gift is perfect for anyone who attends sporting events, likes to hang out with friends and have grab a cold beer, water or gatorade!

Packaging: The box came very quickly! I was quite surprised. I was afraid that the box would be too thin and as I cut into the box with a knife, I was trying to be extra careful not to slice the fabric of the chair. To my pleasant surprise, the chair was packaged REALLY well! There was bubble wrap around every corner to prevent scratches. Included in the box was extra packaging to prevent any damage during shipment. I rank the packaging a 10!

Review of Product: The Bleacher Buddy states in the description that it is great for tailgating. I would agree with this! There are plenty of storage compartments to keep keys, cell phones and extra valuables safe all while keeping  your drinks and snacks cold. My one issue with this product is that it is a little small. Granted, they clearly state on their website that it is meant for tailgating and providing seating when necessary. This is not a chair that my husband would choose to sit for extended periods of time because he is a bigger guy. The crossbar hit him right on the thigh as he sat and the back of the chair hit in the lower back region. For a quick resting spot this chair is a great option. When I sat on the chair, I did not experience as much discomfort as he did, but I am smaller. I think this would be a great “chair” for a kid who could tolerate sitting on it for extended periods of time. I would not call this chair a “camping chair” as that is what Adrian thought it might be good for. For its intended tailgating purpose…it’s spot on!

Overall Ranking out of 10: Adrian and I both rank the Bleacher Buddy a 9 out of 10. Overall, great packaging, great design and excellent customer service from Groovy Guy Gifts. We did remove 1 star because of the unfortunate size of the chair but who really sits when they are tailgating with friends anyway? Great option for the guys who love sports, have kids on sports teams or just enjoy a nice cold beverage as the cooler keeps things cold for a long time!

I would absolutely recommend Groovy Guy Gifts to my couples looking for fun, unique gifts for their groomsmen and fathers.